My parents have been divorced for 25 years. Yes, 25 years. My mom has offered to pay for my wedding, but has said my dad is not allowed to attend and has suggested getting a restraining order. She claims she cannot even be in the same room as my dad because he didn’t raise me or support me over the years and threatens it will trigger her to fall off the wagon. She suggests that she will walk me down the aisle and that I can have a separate celebration with my dad.
My dad has said he will financially contribute but there’s conditions to locations, specific caterer, time of year etc. He said that he agrees not to come to the bigger celebration if I walk down the aisle with him at a smaller gathering. My fiancé does not like the idea of having two ceremonies, and even is hesitant to do two celebrations.
I am at a point where I don’t want to be in the middle of this and am considering paying for the wedding myself.
Any advice is appreciated.